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Through the Eyes of a Haraya Partner: Sibol and Children’s Paradise Montessori School

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” – Friedrich Nietzsche 

For Jackie and a number of Haraya’s partners, helping others gain confidence, self-purpose, and empathy among others are just some of the things they love doing as life coaches. 

Haraya has always been committed to helping others reach their fullest potential through coaching and the partners (coaches) are no stranger to that. Having a community development initiative has always been on the books for them and by asking themselves the question: “Who is it that we want to help?” it was no surprise that they took that same model and helped bring it to life in the education space as it was where they would bring the most value. 

And that was how Sibol was born. Much like its name, meaning “growth” in Filipino, once you plant a seed it will grow into a sprout until it is firmly rooted. That is what Haraya’s Sibol initiative aims to do. With the right coaching, they can help bring change in education by helping students figure out their “why’s” as well as their dreams for the future. 

Sibol: From humble beginnings 

Even before the COVID-19 pandemic swept the world by storm, Sibol was already an idea that the partners and coaches had as a tool to help and contribute in the education sector. The plan was initially catered to the students, more specifically teens from high school all the way to college, and to provide them with life skills, confidence, purpose building, and empathy building. This was to be done live in the classroom and have the workshop coaches come. 

Fast forward to today – in the midst of the pandemic – a lot of industries had to pivot to navigate its way through it and Sibol was no exception to this. With the challenge of going about things online, Jackie and the partner coaches also empathized with the challenges the teachers were facing. They realized this was an opportunity to help give the teachers the skills to contribute to a more positive and better experience to the students. Sibol was that solution aimed to empower teachers with its current partnership with some educational institutions and select schools. 

The program is focused on three specific modules for now, namely: empathy and emotional intelligence (EQ), creating a purpose, and self-care. These modules would run for 90 minutes, done online where there would be follow through coaching with the teachers in between the sessions where they can better apply their learnings to real life. 

One school’s purpose

Children’s Paradise Montessori School (CPMS) was one of the schools fortunate enough to have experienced Sibol firsthand. The owner of the school was excited about the idea of the program as she wanted to create a good environment for her school that was high on compassion and empathy. She wanted, not just the teachers, but also the staff to embody this culture that she had envisioned. 

It was more than just having the skills or the right tools, but the mindset and heartset that will touch the students with each interaction. It was not just about teaching and imparting knowledge, but also about caring and nurturing them and becoming a part of the student’s journey. 

For Jackie this is where the real value of Sibol lies: that they can help create a positive value in school that will affect the experience the students have with their teachers; and what the teachers learn will seep down to their students as a good example. Jackie recalls a story at Children’s Paradise where they were talking about their purpose as teachers. When the teachers were reading their purpose statements, they really went beyond themselves with passion about why they wanted to teach in the first place. It’s this same passion that they envision Sibol will bring to each teacher and student alike. 

A vision for tomorrow 

When asked about the kind of vision Jackie has for Sibol, she says that getting the same kind of partnership with CPMS was something she wished could be applied to as many schools in the Philippines. To go further and be partnered or endorsed by educational institutions will be a great deal of help in furthering the impact of Sibol. A “Ka-Haraya” in every school in the country including public schools and making coaching available at that level will be a great deal of help moving forward most especially as teachers have such an important touchpoint in every student’s life. 

Coaching at its heart is about inspiring people to reach their fullest potential and that is what Haraya aims to do with every session and every project. With Haraya, we believe you can. Learn more about what Haraya does in our website. 

10 Reasons Why You Need a Life Coach

10 Reasons Why You Need a Life Coach

At age 2-4, the only thing you do is complain about food or cry over toys, things you barely can remember. At age 5-10, your life is completely at bliss – no worries about getting greased or hurt. At age 12-16, a lot of your “firsts” happened. You made lots of friends, and memories, set your goals in 10 years and made a couple of unimaginable mistakes. You also once wished to skip four years of college and constantly dream about having your first day at work.

Forward to 10 years later, you just got hired on your second official job after getting your degree. Then you realize while having lunch alone that working your butt off for eight hours a day isn’t somehow worth it. Every night, while in bed, you stare at your blank ceiling and reminisce your naïve and innocent self. Then suddenly you just want old times back. 

No matter which lens you look at, life is hard. It’s a slowly developing chaos that will slap our faces one day. You can’t step through thick rain without having the best foundations to guide you through the day. That’s where good life coaching comes in. 

If you really want to succeed at whatever you are aiming for, a valuable life coach is instrumental to that. Here are other 10 core reasons why you need a life coach today: 

Trouble setting up your goals 

Having a life coach will help you find powerful reasons why you need to set goals and pursue them. Knowing what you really want in life or what you want to achieve is harder if you have no one to talk it through. A little conversation will offer you fresh perspectives and definitions of your goals and empower you to continue fighting for it rather than keeping it in your own little bubble forever. 

Get rid of unhelpful beliefs

Life is a bumpy ride. All kinds of rocks and stones are ready to take you down along your path. It may come as a surprise but these hindrances are not often caused by external things. More often, it’s our very selves that keep us away from our goals. A life coach will guide you on how to understand and work through these beliefs so you can move forward.

One day you will realize that you have already outgrown yourself. 

Don’t know where to begin?

Feeling lost or nowhere to go? We sometimes get stuck into the idea of success or wanting to achieve something but we feel so helpless and crowded that it continues to just be an idea. 

Big dreams are overwhelming. Life coaches will actively listen to your personal struggles and guide you through to your starting point. 

Anxiety and stress will be your long-standing guests

Stress is a constant part of life. Even the richest of the richest and prettiest of the prettiest go through it. It comes when you have failed at something or are struggling to get something done. It also happens when our minds are so crowded and unorganized that our brain cells are shouting “pull yourself together”.

Having someone to organize your thoughts with you and help you move forward on some disappointing or disheartening events will help you get past the drama of life. 

Unable to see a clear vision

At some point, things will definitely get blurry, especially when you feel like someone’s dictating your dreams or you are living according to how others want you to. Everyday is a battle of “I want this” and “they want that”. This is why things are getting messed up.

A life coach will help you cut through all the cacophony inside your head so you can focus and adhere to yours.  Dealing with this just by yourself can just smoke up your mind and make you do things you never liked in the first place. One day you will look back and thank God for having someone help you to surface your true self and lead you to where you want to be.

Finances, health, relationships, career is in complete disarray

If you consider yourself completely detached from all the good things in life, then you need help. When everything is so messed up, you may just end up fiddling your hair in disarray thinking how can you start again. Many people get unravel because they choose to keep their problems to themselves. 

It’s really difficult to walk through a room with no little light or without a flashlight in your pocket. It’s a struggle. You would end up falling to your feet and get hurt. But for as long as you have a flashlight to guide you, you can continue moving forward. A life coach can be your flashlight. 

Passion is gone

Losing your passion isn’t the same as losing life. It’s heartbreaking to be forced to let go of something we love doing but always know that there are things that you haven’t tried yet which you might love. Sometimes we have to lose something so better things can come. 

Life coach’s ultimate goal is to let you realize your full potential and let you grow to be someone you are destined to be. 

Distracted or sidetracked 

Oftentimes, we get stuck spinning our wheels because of things that aren’t necessarily helpful but we just can’t seem to quit. These bad habits can completely debilitate you from achieving anything.

Your life coach will help unearth those bad habits slowly and replace them with good ones – with habits that will give way to growth and success. 

Your friends and family don’t support your dreams

This is by far the hardest of all. It’s really hard to get on track with your dreams if the people who are supposed to cheer you up are the ones that throw stones at you. Unless they support you, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. How will you move forward having no one to pat you on your back and tell you, you are doing great?

Your life coaches will fill in that responsibility. They can serve as your support system. 

When all is gone

Sometimes you wonder, why is the universe so against you? And you repel every positive thing that tries to enter your life because you are just too tired to go on. It’s the lowest and hardest phase of life so you need someone to pull you through darkness. When you are hopeless, you need someone to give you a leap of faith and hope. 

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Life is a tricky old friend. One day it’s about sunshine and rainbows and the next, it’s all darkness. Life is a constant cycle of ups and downs and sometimes you just need someone to help get you ready for what’s up ahead. At Haraya, we see everyone’s individuality and potential and help them become the best version of themselves. Curious to see what your best self is like? Shoot us a message and let’s talk it out!

Haraya Coaching & Coach Masters Academy

Haraya Coaching & Coach Masters Academy, Partners in Transformative Coaching

Coaches help people understand what really matters to them. It helps people move to awareness, clarity, and choice, in whatever situation that they are facing at the moment. It also helps people find a more powerful sense of self.

There is a common misconception about coaching, where people think that coaching is one-sided and the coach dictates what needs to be fixed in the person. Haraya Coaching believes that people are whole beings with the capacity to transform, and coaches help by guiding you through the process of attaining awareness and clarity on what really matters to you. They help people help themselves.

Coach Masters Academy is the main partner of Haraya Coaching to further enhance the coaching skills and knowledge of coaches in the Philippines, to help in guiding more people to be the best version of themselves.

Coach Masters Academy’s vision is to inspire positive change through the mastery of coaching. Helping your clients to experience sustainable result(s) is at the core of CMA’s coach training. We achieve this through a well-thought through comprehensive, structured instructional design coupled with close supervision to accelerate your learning capacity at the mastery level. Using advanced learning management application you can easily access to-a library of resources enabling you to monitor and track your learning progress.

Our coaches bring with them an empathetic energy into the space, the space that is created by the coach and the client. We consciously make our client feel safe in a conversation and allow them to express whatever is on their mind thereby reaching a level of self-awareness.

Haraya Coaching works hand in hand with Coach Masters Academy to help more people grow, improve and transform for the better. To learn more about the transformational path through coaching, visit our website at www.harayacoaching.com and connect with one of our CMA Certified Coaches.

Life Coaching_ Strategies

Life Coaching: Through the Eyes of a Curious Seeker

Our lives are a series of emotions. Whenever we feel accomplished and satisfied, we cannot wait to share the details with excitement to express happiness with the people around us. On the other hand, whenever we have problems, we tend to vent out all those frustrations until we feel better.

Who can we share these emotions with?

Not everyone knows that there are professionals who are trained to listen and help us delve deeper into our emotions and thoughts.  They will create that safe space where we can speak openly about our problems, achievements, dreams, and anything in between.

They are our Life Coaches. A Life Coach is someone who helps us crystallize our goals and discover an actionable plan to achieve them.

As we seek acceptance and understanding or search for answers, we need someone who can guide us towards our desires and plans. Professional life coaches will lead us to uncover possibilities and gain clarity of our current situation, to recognize limiting beliefs and other potential challenges and obstacles, and to commit to a plan of action. In many instances, Life Coaches help us rediscover and maximize our strengths.  And while it may seem daunting, it all happens over open, honest, and heartful conversations.  A Life Coach artfully takes us on that process of realizing our full potential. 

When choosing a life coach, it is understandable to ask yourself questions like:   How can I trust my life coach? How can I have a comfortable rapport with my life coach? How do I see results from the coaching?  Asking these questions could actually suggest that you are looking to experience transformation with a Life Coach.

Great chemistry and a strong connection between the client and the coach are crucial to a successful life coaching partnership. As in most relationships, it is important to enter into this relationship with an openness to partner and full willingness to participate.

When you’re on a path to transformation and self-improvement, and you’re not quite sure how to embark on the process, consider partnering with a Life Coach.  It is a journey of self-discovery, self-awareness, and self-appreciation that you will thank yourself for.

To know more about professional life coaching, talk to our team at Haraya Coaching! Come and connect with us!

How We Do What We Do__ TRANSFORMATION = Ka-Malayan + Ka-Likha + Ka-Linangan (1)

How We Do What We Do?: TRANSFORMATION = Ka-Malayan + Ka-Likha + Ka-Linangan

Haraya Coaching’s vision is anchored on partnership and co-creation.  At the core of our purpose is partnering with teams and individuals to discover and explore their potential, then transform and become what used to only be imagined.  We acknowledge that individuals are works-in-progress, and organizations are constantly reshaping and adapting in order to achieve high performance.  At the heart of our vision is Coaching; Coaching to help people reach who they want to be… to Be Your Imaginable.

Having built over 90 business customers and close to 600 coaching clients, we take pride in designing and providing relevant programs best suited for a diverse set of people, at every phase of their transformation.

Our approach to Transformation takes shape in three phases best represented in these Filipino words: Ka-Malayan, Ka-Likha, and Kalinangan.  Each word (or phrase) is prefixed by “Ka” whose meaning is a prerequisite to most things akin to Haraya – – doing things together. 

Ka-Malayan (Partners in Awareness)

Partnering happens from the very beginning with Ka-Malayan.  Ka-Malayan is about Awareness.  Haraya employs tools and processes to derive an assessment of your current state and needs. Building the appropriate space for inward reflection and self-discovery are our certified coaches who are also leaders in their respective fields (management, people development, wellness, operations).  In Ka-Malayan, we will uncover and discover.  Together, we will understand your needs and envision your desired outcomes. Individuals may understand more about strengths and motivations, while teams/groups may look into team cohesiveness, leadership presence or overall well-being of team members.  Findings and recommendations in Ka-Malayan are precursors for the next phase. Individuals and teams/groups are poised to approach the next phase with more confidence having acquired better clarity and awareness of themselves and their situation.

Ka-Likha (Partners in Creation)

Essential to achieving the desired outcomes is designing a program that nurtures your assets and addresses your needs. This happens in Ka-Likha. Haraya maps out a program that is mindful of the intended audience, employing a methodology that will engage them in the most effective way.  Your vision will be the backdrop for Haraya’s proposal of a customized co-created program. Programs may vary from workshops, team development activities, interactive, learning, coaching sessions, and even hybrids.  Haraya dons your perspective and incorporates our coaching and leadership experience to create a program meant for you.

Kalinangan (Partners in Integration)

Kalinangan sees the outputs from Ka-Malayan and Ka-Likha come to life, as the program is delivered to you and your team, team members or the organization.  With the delivery of the program, it becomes integrated into your reality.  Haraya and its team of coaches and experts execute flexibly through workshop facilitation, learning sessions, knowledge and technology transfer, and group or individual coaching. And because the transformation to greatness is a journey, a component of follow-through group or individual coaching supports sustainability and momentum.

At Haraya Coaching we work with you to design your vision, measure your success, and map out a tangible plan to make it all happen. Whether you are looking for a career shift, wanting more life balance, starting a new project or business, leading a new team, or launching team culture we will support you and/or your team in your journey towards greatness!

Haraya Coaching Founder - Jackie Cañiza

Haraya Through The Eyes Of Its Founder

When you first hear the word “Haraya” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Some people might think the most mundane thing such as a type of coffee, perhaps? Or maybe it’s a word in a local dialect with some form of meaning related to encouragement?

Close… but not close enough.

An old Tagalog word for “Vision and Imagination”, “Haraya” is exactly the perfect word that its founder, Jackie Cañiza had in mind when she started the company in 2012.

Having initially designed her company, previously known as Business Hat, Inc. as a consulting company which merely included coaching as a service, Jackie always felt herself gravitating towards the practice and profession of coaching. So, when she brought together her partners Lea, Cecilia, and TJ, she instantly felt that they needed a fresh start with a company name that would be collectively theirs. With four certified coaches on board, what better way to brainstorm for the perfect company name than by having their own strategic planning sessions? After much reflection on their core values and main purpose, the name “Haraya” came to be.

The word Haraya, according to Jackie is perfect because not only is it a Filipino word – and rightly so Filipino-sounding, which represents pride to the Philippines, but just as well, the word’s meaning is important in that it helps people reach who they want to be – or in other words to “Be your imaginable”.

Coming out of a long HR-background, Jackie has had her fair share of experiences in finding business coaches for her employer’s key executive and key management positions. She recounted how she would go as far as flying in coaches from other countries. With her experiences, she knew that there was a gap in the market. She saw this gap as an opportunity to make coaching more accessible for anybody – not just for C-level executives but even for young adults just starting with their careers. In fact, having managed Haraya now for a few years, Jackie shares that currently they don’t just serve a certain age range – their clients range from teenagers all the way to retirees.

So what exactly makes Haraya stand out apart from its unique name and vision? Though there are not too many companies specializing in coaching in the Philippines at the moment, according to Jackie, Haraya’s greatest advantage is the fact that the company has a big pool of about 40-50 coaches with a wide range of experiences, backgrounds, and perspectives. This wide pool of available coaches allows Jackie and her partners to properly match the right coach with the right client and assure that there’s good chemistry in the relationship. Jackie also adds that many of the companies that also do coaching are also usually focused on consulting and training but what separates Haraya from these types of companies is that early on, they already decided that Haraya’s main core and focus will be on coaching.

With the key focus on coaching, Haraya has three primary coaching services: 1) Life coaching for individuals which can cover any aspect of life such as work-life balance, career or transitions; 2) Corporate coaching programs which involve coaching teams, leaders or executives in the corporate world; and, 3) Coach development, a certification program for anyone who would like to pursue coaching as a practice or just to learn how to become a coach for their company.

The Haraya coaches usually begin their coaching sessions with what they call a “Deep Dive” or a kind of understanding and assessment of a person or company’s current state, then use this assessment as a springboard for the outcome that both coach and client would like to work on together. The coaches use a variety of frameworks and tools that they see fit for the individual or team. From there they proceed with a certain number of sessions and maintain an open line of communication to all of the people they coach whether it be a short chat or a short text message at the end of a long and stressful day.

With a long background in the different fields of HR and having been around a variety of people of different ages, backgrounds, and personalities, Jackie highly believes in the value that coaching can bring. She communicates that finding a coach in the Philippines shouldn’t be hard or expensive. Together with her partners, she believes that any individual or any team can become what they imagine themselves to be. And now more than ever in the wake of the pandemic, Jackie and her team feels a great sense of purpose in helping not just front liners, but all individuals who have been physically, mentally or emotionally affected in one way or the other with the changes that have happened in the past few months. With this, the Haraya team continually pursues their work encouraging everyone to go beyond what they thought was impossible.

Do you have a story to tell? Or perhaps you’ve been thinking about the next step in your life? Or maybe you’re still trying to find the right outcome? We at Haraya can help you be your imaginable. Connect with us at http://haraya.staging.imanilahost.com/connect-with-us/.

Tapping into your core in times of crisis

(An interview with Lea Ungson on Haraya Pivot for MSP)

MSP: How has your business been affected by the current pandemic?

Lea: Like most other businesses, our coaching business slowed down during the lockdown considering that existing and ongoing engagement has to take a temporary pause given the quarantine restrictions and WFH set-up for most of our clients. Ongoing discussion regarding new and potential business partnerships in Q1’2020 has to be deferred given shift in focus and re-prioritization of companies toward people health & safety, business continuity and contingency plans. Our saving grace are the program proposals that we were able to close in the last quarter of 2019 and strong full year performance which gave us a solid head start in 2020.

MSP: What measures did you implement to survive this pandemic? How challenging was it?

Lea: First off, we focused on our team’s welfare – health, safety and well-being. We did a weekly virtual check-in to get a sense of how’s everyone doing, what resources and support is needed until such time everyone became relatively stable with the unprecedented situation. We made sure our employees continue to receive their full salary on top of availing the government subsidy and offered extra financial support to ensure our team is geared up for a WFH set-up.

Alongside, we also asked ourselves how can we be of value and service to the community during this trying time, how can we make a difference? This reflective inquiry gave birth to #UnangTugonPH – a collaborative initiative by our community of coaches who have come together and decided to support our frontliners by offering a service that we are uniquely poised to provide. We gathered over 50 volunteer coaches who have generously offered their time to take phone calls or host online dialogues at no charge. As certified professional coaches, we’ve been highly trained in the skills of showing empathy, active listening and helping clients take an empowering perspective. We aim to help alleviate some of the concerns our frontliners may have, to show care for their emotional and mental well-being. This is our simple way of showing gratitude and support to our brave frontliners. Simultaneous to this, we hosted learning session and #Tapatan – a support circle for our community of coaches as our way of caring for the carers.

Next stop, we kept an open line of communication with our valued clients to check every stage of their transition. For those who we have ongoing engagement at the start of the year, we made a recommendation to shift our sessions and work via online / virtual platform already to sustain the momentum. For all other clients we sent a message of support and giving value by offering #Ka-malayan – a deep dive process at no cost on their end through one-on-one interviews and FGDs to help them create an awareness on the current state of where their teams and organization are at, in terms of their well-being, dynamics and leadership during this trying time. A report will be submitted to them with recommended action steps which they may implement at their discretion. We believe that by partnering in creating awareness in them, they will be in a better position to optimize their performance over the long term and help them transition effectively into the new normal.

Finally, my partners and I went into an internal & creatively facilitated Re-imagination Workshop: Into the Better Normal, tohelp us pivot our business. As we pivot, we kept in mind to stay true to who we are, our why and what we value as a team and company. We objectively look into our people, process, clients and financials. We spent time to revisit who do we serve now and moving forward. Keeping ourselves in the know on various business reviews, forecast and economic outlook, we began to imagine what will the new normal look like and what are the potential emerging needs where can be of value in addressing them. Then we started to consider how to leverage what we have currently on hand – our tools, resources, programs, certifications, coaches’ community and existing strategic partnerships. The whole team started rethinking the way we do our business, the call for embracing the new normal, learning new skills, adapting to new technology, redesigning our programs to make it suitable for online delivery and developing new coaching models to facilitate heightening of awareness and deepening of learning.

It was challenging in the sense that when we started to regroup, the outer world noise is immense that one can easily be drawn to put something out there at once, to strike while the iron is hot, to join the bandwagon of online sessions and just become an expert suddenly on something to fill in the world’s needs. In our case however, we took a step back and chose to stay grounded on the why, what and how our company was built on. We used this time to reflect and reinforce the kind of work we do and value we bring to all our engagement and partnerships regardless of the conditions we’re in. All these, I give back the credit to the whole team ably led by our founder, Jackie Cañiza, the engaged partners, Nature Calderon, TJ Nadres, Cecilia Schrijver and the supportive team, Marge Martinez, Zai Diegor, Vanneza Cazil and Genesis Magno.

MSP: What made you say that your business is surviving or thriving?

Lea: As we speak, our #UnangTugonPH and #Ka-malayan programs have taken traction, select companies have signed up for it and a number of other companies are starting to inquire if we can extend this to their respective organizations. More and more companies now are recognizing the value of caring for their employees’ mental and emotional well-being that a professional coach can provide by their presence, active listening and acting as support system for self-care and managing stress & anxiety. In fact, in the new guidelines for General Community Quarantine, the government is now asking employers to provide access to mental wellness help lines.

The pandemic may have enforced physical distancing but more than ever it called for a different level, sense and depth of connection considering the impact on human behavior of the various changes it has caused like increasing need for contactless transaction, increasing levels of anxiety & depression brought about by isolation & uncertainty, business downsizing / closure, loss of jobs, less spending, increased entrepreneurial efforts, prolonged working hours and unclear boundaries between work and home life in a WFH set-up, to name a few. These changes created the need for wellness & self-care response, virtual presence, career transitions, agile leadership, engaging virtual teams / audience, new business model design, WFA (work from anywhere) adaptability and continuous learning, reskilling & upskilling. Coaching and training profession now more than ever will have demand in both local & international space and will play a vital role in addressing some of these emerging needs brought about by the new normal. As reported in the shifts in the Low Touch Economy by the board of innovation and business experts’ projection that the e-learning industry will be one of the flourishing industries in this period.

MSP: Do you think all SMEs will survive this pandemic? Why or why not?

Lea: I cannot speak for all SME’s as it may vary and depend on different factors. A case in point is the nature of business and industry type that an SME caters to. There are specific industries that will be burdened outright by this pandemic, those for example that thrive on mass gatherings, steady flow of walk-ins, group accommodations and mobility. The sudden drop in demand, cash flow & supply chain disruption, displacement of trained workers/employees, change in purchasing behavior & priorities of consumers, and additional cost related to compliance to new normal operations around health & safety as directed by the government, to name a few, may have a hard hit in the mid to long term, however, it doesn’t follow that said SMEs will not survive cause survival in itself has many factors to be considered as well. We cannot dismiss the perspective and mindset that SMEs have – the commitment to their purpose, the resolve, resilience and creativity to recover, pivot, diversify their business and the access to available resources and support to fuel their business.

MSP: Give at least three ways for businesses, especially SMEs, to survive this pandemic.

Lea: Putting out a disclaimer here, what I will share is based on my personal experience and perspective, these may be in no way applicable to others as circumstances may vary from one SME to another.

Stay grounded and have a clear understanding of what your company stands for – your identity, purpose and values that translates to the kind of work and value that your company bring to your clients and partners. Giving value & service first over making profit is key not only during this trying time. As the famous quote of Maya Angelou says “At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel”

Hone in to the kind of mindset and perspective you hold around the business that you ventured into as that will drive the behavior and outcome of where the business will go. Having what it takes, for example, that mental toughness / alertness, physical wellness, solid entrepreneurial, determined & creative spirit to cease the opportunities behind any crisis. Openness to continuous learning, reinvention and humility to seek help from others (e.g. your partners, team members, credible mentors). Readiness to leverage what is in place so far in your business. Being on the lookout for emerging needs, upcoming trends, buying patterns and business outlook that your business may be able to pivot into. Having an honest and objective assessment of your business state (knowing one’s threshold and when to call the shot).

Keeping the faith and having an attitude of gratitude. I personally believe that challenges placed along our way serve as detour, a re-direction of some sort. We may not see the new long road ahead of us yet each step is a call for something new and better – a call for discovery, appreciation, acceptance, realization, learning, giving importance, reinforcement and many more. Gifts and blessings that we will look back to when we finally reach the end of that new road.

My KKK Story (Kaguluhan, Kamustahan at Ka-malayan)

KKK as popularly known in the Philippines history is a revolutionary society which aimed to gain independence from colonials through a revolution during the 19th century.  Similarly, my KKK story is more of a personal fight story.  Prior to COVID outbreak and ECQ implementation, I had my own share of personal battle “kaguluhan” and I was having quarantine moments already given a health challenge that forced me to pause, reflect and go for rest to recover.  A part of me thinks that am an invincible warrior who’s always on the go, able and willing to help, serve and be a source of strength for others until I was hit by a form of defeat in order for me to retreat.  My natural human reactions took over, non-supportive thoughts came in and disempowering emotions built up.  It was an on and off journey as I struggled to turn the denial to decision, fear to faith, anxiety to answer, hard to humility, pain to purpose, confusion to calm, panic to peace, grief to gratitude and trial to trust.  Amidst the roller coaster of thoughts, questions & emotions, I had to remind myself that God will not give me what I can’t bear. Hard as it is and armed with His promise, I gathered my senses and composure together.  I deliberately shifted my attention to faith and gratitude.  I took note of the small victories and blessings that came with it.  The unexpected circumstance that led to early discovery, the schedules that I need to re-arrange, the right people I encountered in my most vulnerable time, the unison in intervention, the timing of the decision, the travels that I need to forgo (not knowing that there will be a pandemic), the long-overdue move to a new place became inevitable for recovery purposes (not knowing that a mandatory indefinite “stay at home” directive will be implemented).  These and many more tell me that my loving God is with me all the time and has paved the way ahead of me. 

And so my recovery journey began, I reminded myself that this second lease in life must not be put to naught.  My attention shifted in nurturing my mind, body and spirit.  I developed new routines and hobbies.  I indulged in me and quiet times.  I pondered on prayers and reflections.  I chose the food I eat and the activities I do.  I allowed myself to be surrounded and supported by loving family and friends.  I slowly started going back to work remotely and be immersed with my Haraya family.  I remembered the team even set a holiday gathering in my place so I can be physically part of a mini-retreat and planning session.  It was the right time because it came with a practice of trust and vulnerability with the people I felt safe to be with as I slowly reintegrate myself back to the world that I got used to be in.  The reintegration though was short-lived because that world did not stand for long when the quarantine took over.  This time, it’s not just about me anymore.  In an instance, my “kaguluhan” became irrelevant relative to what’s happening around that world. 

The quarantine may have enforced physical distancing yet more than ever it called for a different level of connection.  That’s what I appreciate with our Haraya team, despite the challenging times that we are all in, we remain true to who we are and what we value as a team and company.  Our best practice of having “check-in” whenever we start our meeting was carried on during this period in the form of weekly light “Kamustahan” where we get to connect, check one another and simply ask “How’s everyone doing?” Apart from asking what are we feeling at the moment, we also check if there’s any support needed by anyone in the team.  Then from there, we started asking ourselves how can we help our community during this trying time?  As coaches we know we can give the gift of presence and connection, to listen and just being there for someone.  And that gave birth to Unang Tugon for the frontliners and Tapatan Circle for our coaches, both garnered favorable responses.  The quarantine gave us time to reflect and did reinforce the kind of work and service value we bring to our partners and clients.  That’s where “Ka-malayan” came about – it’s about partnering in creating awareness.

Unknowingly I went through the cycle of KKK myself, when my “kaguluhan” led me to check-in (kamustahan) with my own thoughts and feelings, making sense of what’s happening within me and having that awareness (ka-malayan) of what is it that am going through.  I am a work-in-progress, there are good days and at times I still catch myself haunted by my “kaguluhan”.  Looking back, I found myself asking ‘Where did my half of 2020 go?’ and “What’s out there for the balance of 2020 and beyond?  Indeed, it will be a memorable year not only to me but for many.  With the many twists and turn of events came along the teachings and treasures. Thrive, Pivot and New Normal are just some of the buzz words lately.  I agree that life will never be the same again, there’s no normal to go back to instead am looking forward to what this new life has to offer with a deeper appreciation of what really matters, gratitude for the many blessings that I easily take for granted, steadfast will to stick to the learning and trusting spirit to let go and let God.

What’s in your waiting?

Once again, it’s here – my most awaited time of the year: The season of Advent. Advent is the season of waiting, the season of hope, peace, love, and joy.  This season means a lot to me personally, and it may hold different meanings to others as well.

A season for planning
A season for review
A season for Christmas parties
A season for sale & shopping
A season for vacation
A season for reflection
A season for new beginning

My waiting begins as I join an annual inspirational event covering topic areas such as leadership, business, wellness and spirituality, to name a few. I look forward to attending this annually as it is a form of grounding, centering and simply coming home to myself and my God.  Here I get to learn more from the various speakers, get inspiration from stories shared and get a sense of how God moves in my life. Some of the highlights for me in this year’s event are the number of talks around mental health challenges — how increased awareness and intervention offerings can help address the life threatening impact.  I was reminded in another stream that my value is defined by something eternal versus something material.  An unshakeable self-esteem is anchored on the following:  Person – who do I depend on?  Price – what gives me value? and Purpose – why do I matter?  Finally, the call for service was reinforced in me.  In my life, do I wash hands or wash feet? Do I chase titles or pick up the towels?  How do I bring the upper room to the classroom?

This short four-day retreat is where I get to hit refresh and reconnect with my faith and purpose. As it is usually held on the last week of November, it serves as a deepening prelude for Advent and Christmas. As the year comes to a close, I make an effort to pause and reflect on the past year. An opportune time for me to take stock of what I have bravely embraced, proudly accomplished, curiously explored, deliberately chosen, sadly missed and happily learned along the way, as everything will help me become a better person in the coming new year.  I cannot help but to relate the experience with my being a professional coach.  The very essence of what I evoke from others, I also get to discover for myself, as I become more self-aware and introspective.

Our mindset determines how we see our waiting.  We can be restless in anticipation of what’s to come or we can be proactive in preparing for what is yet to come.  In my waiting I find comfort in knowing that I was designed to rest in God first and there’s a bigger plan in place for me.  I wait in trust and gratitude that it is done.  How about you?  What’s in your waiting?

Thrive with Purpose

It was Wednesday, at 9:13 in the morning, when I received a call from my friend’s daughter.  From the other end of the line she said, “Tito… Dada is gone…”.

Those were the only words I remembered from that call.  After she said it, I was stunned, and my mind went blank. When my mind restarted, memories started to flood my thoughts.  I recalled all the good times we had together, and there were so many.  And I also remembered that time when he was there to help me during a most difficult time in my life.

My friend was gone in his mid-fifties.  He would have been facing new paths in his life and there was so much ahead of him. I wondered whether he was able to live his life to the fullest.  For one also in his mid-fifties, I thought back on what “living life to the fullest” really meant.  How do you define a full life? Must one live long to live his purpose? 

I thought of my friend and how he lived his life.  He was the truest friend one can ever find.  He was always there to help and be with you when you needed him.  He shared happy moments with you. When I was going through rough times, he did not mind spending so much time with me, helping me find a solution or simply just being there to listen. He celebrated milestones in my life, from the baptism of my sons to their wedding day.  As a family man, he worked himself hard to provide the best that he could for his family and loved ones.  Often, I heard him talk of how else he can make life happier for his wife and daughter, and what life experiences he can still share with them.  He truly loved them and made every effort to show it.

After much reflection, I realized that a full life is something we define for ourselves and not anyone else.  And it does not matter if our time on earth is long or short.  We live our life’s purpose every chance we get, every day we live. 

These reflections remind me of an article about achieving goals.  It talked about how most of the time we can get hung up on achieving goals that we tend to forget about living.  It said that the goal is merely a result.  What is important is what we do every day, being mindfully focused on doing “chores” (the article calls it “habits”) that lead to the goal.

So yes, my friend did live a full life.  He lived his life’s purpose.  He lived his life according who he wanted to be for his family, for his friends and for himself.  And while I will surely miss him, I am happy and grateful for having had him in my life as one true friend.